Intimacy coaching with Haneen

My coaching is rooted in

  • 🙆🏻‍♀️ Authenticity

    “It’s unsafe to be me” is a belief I carried into adulthood. My work is about reclaiming the truest version of yourself: learning to welcome all the messiness & discomfort.

  • 🌈 Playfulness

    Without compromising on depth. I will challenge you, play with you & encourage you to break scripts through improv, and embrace your inner child. Playing is the antidote to shame.

  • 🧘🏻‍♀️ Embodiment

    Whatever we work on, the body will be your north compass. 🧭 Let’s bring it’s wisdom back online, learn to trust it’s signals & slow down to fully feel your feelings.

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Experience the gift of embodied confidence

What do I coach?

  • 👉🏼 Maybe you feel inadequate at pleasing your partner
    👉🏼 Maybe you struggle to see yourself as a sexual or attractive being… 🤷🏼‍♂️
    👉🏼 Maybe you judge yourself because you’re not having sex a lot
    👉🏼 Maybe you feel guilty or wrong for what you like

    …and all of this feels a little embarrassing & you want to feel more empowerment in this area of your life.

    I would love to support you to feel self-loving & confident about how your sexuality is. Exactly as it is. And how you want to be touched, how your body looks, etc.

    We’ll understand your body, what you desire & how to communicate that. Which makes relating sexually SO. MUCH. EASIER.

  • If you go along with what you think your partner wants, trying to read their mind. You notice it stops you from just relaxing and enjoying your own experience.

    Maybe you don’t trust your partner to give you feedback if they don’t like something. It stops you from letting go and getting creative! Cos what if they hate it? 


    I will support you to release feeling responsible for your partner’s experience. Cos caretaking is a killer of eroticism!! ;)

    And your partner can TELL. They can tell when you’re not connected to yourself in sex. 

So I will help you notice your own desires & needs in sex, and how to really take care of them. So you become trustworthy to your partner and to yourself! <3 



    Boundaries will be a badass theme here, too ;)

  • Are you afraid of telling someone that your interest is casual?
    Maybe you’re afraid it’s a hurtful message to communicate.

    Do you find it’s harder to feel safe with casual partners because there’s more fear of judgment?

    I will help you lean into these conversations with ease. To avoid drama, and communicate with clarity and warmth.

    So you can have loving & clear relationships that are outside of the “norm”.

  • Maybe you feel insecure when you really like someone? You’re unsure what to say, how to be playful, when to make a move, how to read if they like you…..

    My desire is to help you OWN when you like someone. We take the goal out of flirting, and lean into being YOU so that you feel confident approaching someone.

    We’ll make rejection feel less scary, which will make it easier for you to initiate. We’ll learn ninja communication & consent skills so that you can play freely and build yummy tension.

  • Maybe you’re struggling to fix a bedroom rut with your partner? Or you’re barely connecting intimately.

    In fact….it’s not even really about the sex anymore!

    I help couples take a step back and provide a stage for them to share their tension.

    I believe conflict is a gateway to intimacy.

    We’ll learn how to FEEL your feelings, without blaming your partner.

    Then we’ll learn how to welcome and hold space for your partner’s feelings, without needing to change them.

    Almost always - sex ruts are actually about a lack of communication. I will support you to reliably lean into these conversations, with more ease & love. And in doing so, build deeper intimacy.

    Check the couples coaching page for more detail.

  • I see this a lot. You’re in a relationship that isn’t matching your sexual needs. 



    Maybe you’re the partner who wants to do aaaaall the kinky parties, threesomes, & fantasy play. 



    Maybe you’re the partner who feels “broken” & judges your sex drive to be non existent. 



    Either way, perhaps you’re feeling rejected, unloved, or resentful.



    Sexual desire between couples can change throughout the life of a relationship. The good news: there is no such thing as sexual incompatibility, only miscommunication or not knowing what’s going on on a deeper level and what solutions are available.

  • A sexy woman knows how squirt 💦A real man last for ages 🍆
    I have to give him perfect blow job
    I have to give her 17 orgasms
    I should have a high libido, ready to have sex ANYTIME. 🕝

    It’s called sexual perfectionism. 🤯 It’s a thing. We’ll identify any scripts you’re carrying of what sex is “supposed to look like”

    I will help you find your own voice in sex. How to feel good about having sex the way YOU want to have sex.

    Maybe it’s not even clear what that is? I’ll help you. 💥 Love how your sexuality works for you.

  • The pressure to be vocal, can feel very alienating! 

Because what DO you want? 
What should you want? What if you judge your desires?



    What if you SAY it 💬 and your partner dismisses you or finds it too much work. 

F*ck, it’s easier not to speak up.

    This is one of my fav things to coach. I will support you to feel EASE & freedom in expressing yourself. No more freakout, freezing, or defaulting to giving!!!

    

A breakthrough in more ways than one! 💪🏼

  • …..and take up space sexually!!!!

    There’s all this pressure to be aroused quickly. And for women especially, to orgasm in a “timely manner”. 😅⌛

    I will help you access your desire freely. To get out of the headspace of rushing to the end, so that your partner can feel good.

    We will go through some deep fantasy work, orgasm & pleasure education and truly slow down so you can fully receive and enjoy the journey in your body.

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After our call …

We’ll know if we are a fit. 😉 I’ll send you a follow-up email with an intake form and a personalised roadmap of your journey. 🗺️📍The price of our 4 month container is:



£150/hour

for a one-off session

or

£1080

for a deeper transformation over 4 months that includes
👉🏼 8 x 70 min sessions
👉🏼 recordings & summaries of sessions
👉🏼 email support & check-ins
👉🏼 personalised homework

What’s the roadmap?

1️⃣ De-conditioning

How do you feel pressured to show up in dating & sex? Who do you think you need to be: to be loved, to be desired, or considered “good in bed”? Let’s start to move away from validation & approval-based scripts, to more of what YOU want. Let’s empower you to make choices that feel good to you. Have sex on your terms. Date on your terms. Receive pleasure on your terms.


2️⃣ Embodiment

…but wait! You probably don’t know what sex is like on your terms, because you’ve numbed yourself and treated your body like a brain taxi for so many years. 🧠🚕 Let’s shift your attention to your body, so you can slowly follow the signals of what you want ✅ and don’t want 🚫. Being embodied will help you connect with your desires and your boundaries.


3️⃣ Worthiness

So now, you’ve noticed what you want. But do you feel worthy of your desires? When we finally get in touch with our desires, we inevitably touch our anger and our grief. We realise how much we’ve been pleasing and living for others. Can you welcome and approve of your messy feelings, without judging them or minimising them? Will you allow yourself to have what you truly want?


4️⃣ Playfulness, Flirting, Creativity

Now we’ve cried, we’ve grieved, we’ve connected to our body, and our desires…… let’s learn to PLAY. To have a smoking hot sex life, we need to be comfortable with rejection! I notice we really fear this.

Prepare for a dose of improv, role-play and silliness in sessions. We will let go of agenda, and step into a new paradigm of sex or dating.

5️⃣ Communication

And finally - my favourite super power. Communication. This is such an important pillar 🏰 but we often skip the essential “feeling” stuff first and then wonder why our partner isn’t responding to our “perfect NVC” communication! 😂 You’ll learn to expertly navigate vulnerable topics & crunchy conversations. You’ll learn to initiate sex conversations with ease & levity. You’ll learn to share your desires and boundaries in the moment, and share honest feedback with your partner … tactfully!

FAQ’s

  • After you fill an intake form, I’ll draw up a roadmap that will steer us over the 8 sessions and make clear your goal and the skills for us to work on.

    A coaching session usually opens with you sharing what’s been happening for you lately in your sex/dating life. We’ll then choose an area to focus. From there we’ll do a mixture of reflecting and interactive exercises. I don’t just engage in “talk” - I will often ask you to check how your body is responding to a certain question or situation! If it’s a more therapeutic session, we’ll follow a flow inspired by Internal Family Systems therapy. If it’s more “teach-y”, I’ll get us to practice certain tools or communication role-plays.


    Most of the time the session is tailored to what’s built upon since the last session, that help us move towards our goal.

  • Depending on how you learn best and what our goal is, I could set you a chapter to read (e.g. about sex drive types), a podcast (e.g. how to feel your feelings, or what your erotic blueprint is) or a framework to nerd on.

    I will supplement that with a practical exercise, which could include:
    👉🏼the 3 minute game with a friend
    👉🏼 a pleasure/touch based exercise
    👉🏼 actively practicing a skill we’ve learnt
    👉🏼 reflecting on questions I’ve set
    👉🏼 a conversation to have with your partner
    👉🏼 tracking parts in yourself that are activated!

  • You will only ever be invited to share :) It’s up to you how much!

    All my clients have felt comfortable to share about their sex life (I have pretty much heard it all ;)) Where relevant, I will share just as candidly too, so it doesn’t feel one-sided!

  • In my experience video calls have been just as effective as face-to-face sessions. ❤️ So my practice has been 85% online. That said, I can occasionally offer in-person. I’m based in London so let me know if this is a desire.

  • I would suggest a minimum of 8 sessions. Usually clients renew on a rolling-basis after for a total of 12-15 sessions. 



    This depends on our relationship together, the depth of your goal, and where you are on the journey. Some clients may need more time to work. The key is to not rush the process and to give yourself time to reflect on what you're really thinking and feeling.

  • Great question! I have found there are a few key conditions to accelerating the journey:

    
👉🏼 You have a certain level of self-awareness in place already (this is not your first “self development” investment) 

    👉🏼 You’re keen to do the homework in between class 

    👉🏼 You proactively schedule sessions with me that are 2-4 weeks apart.

    👉🏼 You are willing to be honest, reflect and FEEL your feelings.
    👉🏼 You’re willing to take small risks during our sessions that feel outside your comfort zone!
    👉🏼 You reflect on the discussions we have after sessions and share them with me (where relevant)

  • Nope, sex & intimacy coaching is fully clothed with no touch involved.

    Suggestions for (intimate or non-intimate) touch exercises may be given for you to practice at home though!

  • The main thing is: do we click? ❤️

    I’ll share a little bit about my practice & answer any specific questions you have about the coaching process. 🙌🏼

    The rest of the time I’ll ask you juicy questions about the area of sex/dating you’ve come to me for! I will help you breakdown what is going on (i.e. what you’re not seeing) and what’s in-between you and your goal — so you have more clarity. We’ll decide together if we will feel like a right fit for each other! 🌱

  • Yes, it can be super complementary to work with a therapist and a coach. Let’s talk about it in our initial free call!

  • To me, intimacy is about vulnerability and revealing the masks we wear. I'm aware most of my clients are intelligent and quite heady. So my sessions are very somatic. In other words, I’m getting us to slow down and feel - enough to notice the subtle signs of forcing, people pleasing or resistance in your body that’s masking anger or fear. I have typically found online sessions to be better than in-person because you’re in the comfort of your home, so there’s a safety in place that helps you drop in even deeper.

“Haneen is exactly the kind of sex and intimacy coach you would want - she is a wonderful listener, asks great curious questions and embodies a humble confidence when it comes to talking about all things sex! It is not a topic many find easy to discuss but she does it with so much warmth, playfulness and openness! She is also an incredible source of knowledge and experience.”
— Georgie
“After a string of disasters in my dating life, I felt inadequate and had little idea how to navigate modern dating & flirting. When I started working with Haneen, we dove deep into the parts of me that held a lot of unconscious stories that sabotaged my confidence in dating. From there, I started to understand what I ACTUALLY wanted, which allowed me to date more intentionally and make truly authentic connections. When I compare where I am today with where I was less than a year ago, the result has been nothing short of transformational. ”
— Z, anonymous, 40's, male